10 Years in the Making…
It was 10 years ago that I started my Wellbeing Journey when at 23, I stumbled onto a Humanistic Counselling Degree at The University of Nottingham… and when I say stumbled, I mean quite literally stumbled onto the course.
As the Photo on the Left suggests, I was a mess.
I went into my counselling degree, thinking it’d be a nice little walk through the park.
I couldn’t have been more wrong.
The first year broke me to the point of deferral.
Up until this point in my life, for one reason & another, I’d been living behind a fortress of coping mechanisms.
But within that fortress lay a pretty broken & vulnerable child.
Therapy, theory & process groups taught me how to forgive & accept.
I became empowered by the realisation that ultimately, it’s down to my decisions, not my conditions that will determine which outcomes I get from Life.
Really, these years have been about finding a balance in life, the restructure of my attachment style & growing towards being the most authentic Self that I can be.
I’ve made some good decisions which were liberating; and I made bad ones, guided by hedonism. But what I learnt from every decision that was mine to make is this;
Good decisions brought about new experiences, and Good-experience was gained from the bad ones.
What i’ve learnt about Growth is that;
It takes conscious application of healthier habits.
Whether it’s the type of thoughts, foods or behaviours that are holing you back from your growth point- it’s about being aware of how much control you do have over your life.
40% of our happiness is determined by the choices we make, so you wanna make sure that you’re making decisions that support what is good for you & your Wellbeing.
My Wellbeing Journey means dedicating time to “me maintenance”- that is, being mindful to take the time to nurture my needs & make choices that support my Overall Wellbeing.
If you Follow my stories on Instagram, you’ll see that as well as my fitness, I’m mindful about the company I keep; the quality of thoughts that I think; & the foods that I eat, as this stuff is all important Life fuel too!
We have a great way of blaming or scapegoating our responsibility for our mental attitude and/or our lack of prosperity on to our circumstances. It really is a redundant exercise.
We have to take responsibility for the life that we have, because life really is just a result of the choices we make.
Einstein said that the definition of insanity was to keep repeating the same behaviour and expecting different results- If you’re stuck in a rut and you just keep doing the same rounds of the same grounds, slowly but surely, you’re going to lose the plot.
Everything that you do is a choice. Even if it is to just get up and do the same old laps, day in, day out.. What I’m saying is that in my experience, I chose to stop treading water and life got more interesting and way more engaging.